consultation with a psychologist in Paris 9 for a breakup: how to get through it ?

How to get through it after a painful breakup?

“Heartbreak is one of the most painful traumas we have to fight, because it has to be overcome alone, and especially in the most profound silence”. Yves Simon, Les Novices (2006)..

A love breakup is always a tumultuous slice of life. It begins with the loss of a love, of a loved one, of life habits, special moments, of a dynamic as a couple, of shared feelings that made us feel different, good, confident in life and about the future. Thoughts turn to obsession in love... obsession with breaking up, sometimes obsession with first love.

Love and its chemistry are the same thing. A wave of well-being that readily sweeps through life. Some even say that love is similar to an addiction, that it uses the same neural networks. So it's easier to understand the pain felt at the announcement of a romantic breakup, or the end of a beloved love affair.

The announcement of a romantic break-up results in a very deep feeling of sadness, similar to grief - love loss. In the midst of a breakup, the pain and suffering felt are reminiscent of symptoms of depression. Sadness, loss of appetite, no desire for anything (apathy), obsessive thoughts, sadness again, crying. Sometimes sadness is followed by anger. Popular culture evokes a love mourning in several phases, from the announcement of the break-up to anger, withdrawal and sadness, to a return to a semblance of a normal life.

So, how do you get through a difficult breakup?

The causes of romantic breakup are endless, but the most common are excessive jealousy: unhealthy jealousy, lack of self-confidence , lack of libido, infidelity or even weariness with fading of feelings. feelings. Although these are all reasons to consult a psychologist's office, and symptoms that can be alleviated and resolved through psychotherapy, the fact remains that when a break-up occurs, the pain that accompanies it is very real.

Yves Simon rightly writes, the ordeal of a painful break-up is often experienced in silence, which is even more painful. By consulting a psychologist following a romantic breakup , the patient knocks on the right door since it is that of his or her own story. He thus breaks the isolation and finds a place where his words are listened to. Psychotherapy allows the subject to find the path of his desire and overcome the ordeal of romantic breakup thanks to the psychoanalytic method of free association. By freely associating one's thoughts, without judging or filtering, you go to meet your unconscious.

Repetitive patterns originating in childhood and adolescence, identification with close people yet with the fear of always repeating the mistakes of the past, overcoming grief, love and professional breakups, failures, phobias or diseases, fear of the future, these are some of the areas that psychotherapy makes it possible to work thanks to the meeting with the psychologist or the psychoanalyst. It brings peace and intimacy with oneself.

If you find yourself in a painful breakup situation and want to get out of it , I invite you to contact me directly at 0603159412.

Psychologist to recover from a breakup